Are you a Yes Ma’am?

Are you a Yes Ma’am?

A lot of times we get caught up in people pleasing others.  We never want to disappoint anyone?   We want to help others because it makes us feel good.   We want people to know they can rely on us.  So, we say “Yes”, “Sure”, “I’m in”, “Let me know what I can do to help”, “What time should I bet there?”, only to go home and think about it and regret saying yes.  Wishing that we would have stood our ground THIS TIME.  Also wondering, how am I going to tell so and so that I agreed to do something else.

We all want to be liked. We may say we don't care, but we do.  We might not care what some people think about us but we want to be liked.   We don't want people to think poorly of us.   We like having friends.   We like people asking us for help.  We like people knowing they can count on us.  We like being the “Yes Ma’am” - until we dont.   

“What if we say no and they never ask me to do anything again?”   “If I say no then I might not get the promotion?”  “If I say no then……..” , you fill in the blank.

But, if we say no then we will have more time to do XYZ with friends or family.  We complain about not having time to do this, that, or the other, but we are responsible for our schedules.   We choose what we do and not do, RIGHT?  At least we should during our free time.   

Work is work and those hours are set for us whether it's a job outside the home, inside the home, or a stay at home mom.  And guess what?  Sometimes we don't need to say yes to the people who control our paycheck etc either.  This is for another time, but trust me there are ways to not be taken advantage of at your work.  

Anyways, you made it this far.  Are you ready to know how to change?

Ask yourself these question first.  

Do I truly want to change?  

Do I want to control my schedule and my life?  

Do I want to say no sometimes and yes when it's the right time?  

If you answered yes to any of these questions then keep reading.

To Be Continued…